DATING A MARRIED MAN(1) : you are just an option

“HE CAN’T CHOOSE YOU, YOU ARE JUST AN OPTION(ONE OF MANY)” – Dark Secrets

Bad is an understatement. If you look into the society you live in, then most will tell you it is a bad thing to be in love with a married man. If you both are in love, it can break lot of things and hurt people around you.

On a contrary, the married man may be in great pain. He might not have a happy home. Loving a man like that can show him there is a possibility of finding happiness again if he is willing to leave his marriage.

I would argue that no man would find interest in another woman other than his wife if he has a happy home. It is the trouble in a marriage that makes both parties start being open to relationships with people outside their home.

If you ever meet a man and he is open to you and you love him, it is typically not bad in and out itself. It could be good, it could lead to a good outcome. It could bring more love as well lot of pains.

Hello! This whole relationship is a fantasy. It’s just a dream not a reality, which is why it seems so perfect. Guess what? There is a side to this man you haven’t seen, probably a lots of sides.

Do yourself the goodness and end this. Save yourself the shame and put yourself first. The same way this man does every day of his life.

You know this. Otherwise you’d never be putting yourself through the pain of being an option in his life instead of a priority. You’re willing to do that because you love him I guess? It’s not worth it.

Why isn’t he willing to put himself out for you? It’s because this is a lot of fun for him. He gets to feel like a man. Dates, secret sex that is so hot precisely because it’s risky and forbidden. That’s the kind of man he is. That isn’t love but romantizied nonsense.

You end it right away. Don’t wait another day. The longer you wait, the harder this involvement is going to be to untether from. For you, that is. I can promise you that there is a part of your so called lover which would be secretly happy to be off the hook.

Because if he really wanted to be with you, he would be. Divorces aren’t usually that difficult to get and guess what? “People stop at nothing when they really want something” and they don’t wait around because they know they risk loosing out.

HE CAN NEVER CHOOSE YOU, YOU ARE JUST AN OPTION(ONE OF MANY) – Dark Secrets

written by:

Eniitan O. Adeyemi

(Cert. Public Speaker)