DATING A MARRIED MAN (part 2): you are just an option

“you are just an option, he will never choose you” – Dark Secrets

People will critize you for your choices of why you choose to be with a man who is married. But this is life and shit happens. We can’t always think logically or rationally all the time. We are humans after all.

You have spent tangible amount of time in the relationship and perhaps you have great memories of the same. But now you have realized that there isn’t a future with him. Married men will never leave their wife or family for you whatsoever in majority of the cases. YOU ARE JUST AN OPTION.

You need to leave if you have gotten to that stage where you see no hope in going forward. Yes, you have true feelings for him. Its okay to have spent lot of years with him. Don’t get bitter or angry with your choices. Take it as just one major event of your life.

Move on from this whole fantasy. The love you feel for him will never disappear. So take this in your stride. Walk away with rich experience. Do not be bitter, he was an integral part of your life for those years. Look back and remember the good memories and at the same time it was a dead-end.

You never know how much pain will occur if you push through. Just as it’s hard to tell how much pain is already going on.

Society often blames the “mistress” for causing problems, when in fact the marriage is already in deep mess and the married man bears a great deal of responsibility for his actions.

The mistress shouldn’t be blamed as you are free agents. People are not property, even if they are married. It is never the mistress job to make sure the married man keeps his vows. It is his job. And his wife’s job.

You can reach your own conclusions as to good and bad, but I wouldn’t even think about it. Good and bad are just ways we beat ourselves up for being who we are. It rarely helps us become better people.

Written by:
Eniitan O. Adeyemi
(Cert. Public Speaker)