YOU SOLD HIM OUT: a game of risk

I've seen women who justify their husbands having affairs and still claim they are loved and that their husbands are using the other party just for sex. I just smiled because I'm not that naive.

Affairs aren't just that mentality of sex alone. One night stands may be! Affairs involve an agreement with someone else. Someone you find peace with, talk to everyday, someone that feels like a definition of home, someone else besides the wife everyday!.

Relationship outside the home isn't just like your regular Netflix series or showmax films that happen because of an argument in the home. The love he once had for you had faded overtime. He is tired of being neglected physically, emotionally and mentally.

He got tired of you and found happiness outside the home. “It was never a mistake but his choice”. He felt something different for someone else and then you cry. No YOU SOLD HIM OUT! Some men admit they are married but want to escape such marriage, they can't leave but they are miserable. Most men aren't lying.

The woman outside didn't chase him down. YOU SOLD HIM OUT and he fell out of love with you and in love with another. You never cared when the marriage was falling apart, you never made things right when he was becoming distant. So why are you waiting until he meets someone new before fixing what is broken. You're a fool if you think he his staying in his loveless marriage for you. It isn't about you but his kids and all his investment in the marriage. If the choice was you or the woman outside and nothing else was at stake, you would never win! He would choose where he finds love. He chose her all these times and you catching him won't change anything because YOU SOLD HIM OUT.

The only thing that makes you better than his woman outside is, he goes back home to you because he has to but goes to her day after day because he wants to.

The problem is that no one know in advance how things will turn out and no one knows how much pain it will bring on every parties involved. Just as it's hard to tell how much pain is already going on.

I wouldn't even think about it. You know why? Good and bad are just ways we beat ourselves up for being who we are. It really helps us become better people and to think of it that she actually SOLD HIM OUT.

Written by:
Eniitan O. Adeyemi
(Cert. Public Speaker)